THE BAD BREAK UP STRIKES BACK AGAIN
Greetings:
In a classic “Seinfeld” episode – Elaine Benes is newly dating Alan Mercer–a man whose dating relationships all end very badly for him.
Below is an excerpt from this show about Alan’s bad break ups:
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ELAINE: (Leans in close) Between you and me, what happened there with the stabbing?
ALAN: Just.. one of those things, you know.
ELAINE: What? Was she just so crazy in love with you that she just couldn’t take it anymore? Or..?
ALAN: I don’t know. Could be.
(A woman, Carol, passes. She stops infront of Elaine and Alan’s table)
CAROL: Alan?!
ALAN: Carol?
(Carol grabs his hot coffee, and throws it in his face, then storms off. Alan screams from the pain)
ELAINE: (Gets up, pointing after Carol) Was that the one?! Was that the one who stabbed you?!
ALAN: (Between screams) No, that was a different girl.
(Elaine looks confused. Scene ends)
[Setting: Coffee shop]
JERRY: There was another crazed ex-girlfriend?
ELAINE: Right, so, I called my friend, you know – the one who set us up – I found out, he’s a bad-breaker-upper.
JERRY: Mmm.. Bad how?
ELAINE: (Fast) Well, you know when you break up, how you say things you don’t mean? Well, he says the mean things you don’t mean, but he means them.
JERRY: (Nods) I follow. So what are you gonna do?
ELAINE: Dump him. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t break up nicely. I mean, to me, that’s one of the most important parts of a relationship.
JERRY: (Agreeing) What’s more important?
(Elaine shrugs, then Jerry shrugs, then Elaine, then they both get into sort of a shrug-off)
(Scene ends)
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It’s been widely believed that roughly 50% of all marriages will end because of divorce. And most romantic relationships don’t get to the marriage stage. And as the Seinfeld episode excerpt above sharply points out, all too many of the ways some individuals end at least one of their once loving partnerships take the word “TERMINATE” to an unhealthy level and a violent outcome.
So, here’s what I’m looking for some fine feedback on:
??? If your Mistress disappears because Her life is busy enough or full enough without you, Or if She stops liking you or having use for you.
WHAT THEN?
??? If you have convinced yourself that She apparently saved your life because you were in such despair… when the job of being your savior, or anyone else’s, is really up to somebody/something Bigger than you and I, then what do you do if or when your time with Her comes to an end?
??? How can someone swooning in their place in a totally intense BDSM, D&S, hedonistically hypnotic, etc relationship get the necessary reality check when the fantasy feels sooooooo very real?
??? The reality is that pretty much everyone leaves eventually. And even when involvement with that Entrancing Domme enthralls you like nothing else can, each P/partner will always have to deal with their own stuff.
What are some effective ways of handling the truth that no matter what….. you’re always still stuck with you?
??? Is there a best way to end hypnoerotic and other potently sensual relationships? If so, what do You/you believe it is?
